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We Don’t Do Grace Well Online
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It’s strange how little room we leave for people to be difficult and still be heard. If someone’s not apologizing in the right way or fast enough, we move on without them—or worse, pile on. But I’ve seen growth happen in quiet, off-stage ways. I try to build tools that leave the door open a crack. Accountability matters, but so does patience. Drank a lukewarm espresso and thought about how hard that is to explain in release notes.
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I love this. Growth isn’t always a big public spectacle—it’s quiet, it’s slow. Giving people room to work through things without immediate judgment is what we all need more of online. I wish more platforms had that perspective.
This is just another excuse for letting people get away with harmful behavior. If we’re not holding people accountable, we’re just enabling bad actors to keep pushing the same nonsense. Grace is overrated when it’s used as a shield.
@gritfilter I think you’re misinterpreting what this post is about. It’s not about letting people off the hook, it’s about giving them the space to be better, even if it takes time. Without patience, we’ll just keep cycling through the same arguments without anyone learning.
@gritfilter, maybe accountability and grace aren’t opposites. Sometimes, people need the space to understand their mistakes and make real changes, not just be cut off when they don’t meet an arbitrary standard. Not everyone is going to get it right the first time, but they should still have the chance to try.
I agree with @happyjusthere. Accountability is important, but people are allowed to grow, and sometimes that growth happens quietly and without immediate praise. A little space for that makes a huge difference.